The Importance of Connection Something that has helped me tremendously in my journey as a parent is to remember that I am doing the best I can in any given moment. And so is my child. He wants to connect with me. If he’s not, that is letting me know that something isn’t right in his world, something isn’t right
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The Importance of the Relationship Principle 2: The parent-child relationship is more important than any behavioral intervention, consequence, or punishment. The bottom line is that parenting techniques that use threats and coercion are really threatening the child’s core needs for love and attention (what a child needs to survive) to gain temporary compliance. A compliant child is very different than
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Regulation and Dysregulation We’ll be shifting how we look at our children and their behavior by taking a closer look at the foundational principles of Consciously Parenting. You may just discover something about yourself in this process, too. Principle 1: All behavior is a communication. Behavior reflects the internal state of the individual and the relationship’s level of connection. New
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Connect with Your Inner Guidance Inner guidance doesn’t have formulaic solutions, but always come back to connecting in relationship, holding the importance of everyone’s needs whenever possible. By making conscious parenting decisions, we have the power to create connection instead of disconnection, love instead of fear, peace instead of discord. Then we can return to our natural “perfect” state of
Read MoreA Healing Journey Parenting can truly be a healing journey, if we allow it to be. And our children can be our best teachers, helping us to see those parts of ourselves that need healing. From the book Consciously Parenting: What it Really Takes to Raise Emotionally Healthy Families When my son was young and we were struggling the most,
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Welcome! I’m so happy that you’ve found your way here! I’m going to be sharing 30 days of parenting excerpts with you from my first ground breaking book, Consciously Parenting: What It Really Takes to Raise Emotionally Healthy Families. These ideas radically shifted my own family life and have enriched the lives of hundreds of families around the world. I’d
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Living in southern Mexico where the spoken native languages (Spanish and many indigenous languages are spoken here) are not my native language has created a lot of interesting situations for me. I’ve learned how easy it is, really in any language, to miss communicate. The Fence Here’s a story to illustrate the basic idea. My neighbors, who are also my
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Maybe you’ve been in this situation recently. There’s a conversation you need to have with your partner (or another important person) and they’re not willing to have the conversation or they react defensively. Or maybe your partner is trying to have a conversation with you and you’re the one who is feeling defensive. Maybe it’s a recurring theme and you’ve
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Healing Partner Relationships Together Healthy partnerships are so important to our well-being. When we have a partner and it is going well, even difficult things can be moved through with the power of two. When a partnership isn’t going well, it can impact every area of your life. Survival Mode When couples come to me and their partnership isn’t doing
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Who are the emotionally safe people in your life? Who can you share anything with (or most things with) and know that your thoughts and feelings are safe with that person? Today, we’re going to be exploring what a safe relationship feels like to you, and we’re going to talk about why that’s important especially if you’re healing a relationship.
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