I wasn’t going to breastfeed. I wasn’t sure it was for me. So when I learned that the birth center where I was planning to have my son required breastfeeding, I felt a familiar, “No one can tell me what to do” rise up within me.Continue
I am sick to death of reading fluffy pieces that tell me to take a long bath, and to integrate more self-care by just breathing, to fix my entire life. Magazines and blogs are filled with articles about finding extra time in your day, while social media flaunts pictures of girlfriends walking in flowered meadows or sipping tea from perfect steaming mugs.Continue
I see you with your messy hair from a sleepless night with a restless babe in your arms, tear-soaked pj’s still being worn the next day with that same babe that is bright-eyed and ready to greet the rising sun.
I hear the stumbling of your 6:30 am wake-up call with a cold cup of coffee by 7, and another at 10, noon, and by 3 pm that same (or fourth) cup of coffee that can probably be found somewhere around the house, still full, or in the microwave, still cold….Continue
They may be warm in their beds, having had their bedtime routine, and yet something doesn’t feel right to them. Instead of saying, “Mom, I feel anxious,” the yells from down the hall for a drink of water come. It may be, “Can I have one more hug?” or “I have to go potty.”
This isn’t avoidance of resting their bodies. It is an outcry of a need they have no words to describe.
As the requirements for our children in traditional schools become longer, including mandates for the number of minutes each subject must be taught, schools are eliminating recess, physical education, and play-based learning. There simply isn’t time for movement because it is considered unimportant in our head-centric education. But this disconnect is hurting our children.Continue
They were up on the ropes course at MOSI. My son was about 9 years-old at the time and he was fearlessly navigating the twists and turns and the narrow spots with ease about 30 feet off the ground. I was down on the ground observing, seriously in awe of his fearlessness and skill.Continue
Today I want to share a few recent stories from my home where I have been able to see the effects of many years of practicing Consciously Parenting. I have been doing this for 13 years. 13 years of investing in learning about how to parent differently, practicing the way I want to respond to my children’s emotions and behaviors, and developing the language that I want to use with them, and for them to use with me and others.Continue
Several years ago, I was struggling with my 11-year-old son’s transition to school in the morning. I just wanted him to get up and go to school! He loved his school and I really couldn’t understand what the problem was with getting there on time. He was so slow in the morning and it was eating up my morning work time just trying to get him to school. (There were advantages and disadvantages of having a flexible schedule for both my work and his school.)Continue
Boundaries are a foundation of our homes, and many well-meaning parents believe (mistakenly) that parenting consciously means that we don’t have any boundaries or limits for our children. So today I wanted to take a few minutes and talk about boundaries and what that means here at Consciously Parenting.Continue
We have a natural inclination to want to talk about the things that happen to us, yet we also reason with ourselves about it being over and that it isn’t necessary to talk about it. Get into the habit of talking about things when they happen, even with your babies and very young children. Recognize the story you’re telling yourself about it and the story they’ve made up to make sense of what happened.Continue