Podcast Episode #43 – Raising Boys Q&A: Healthy Masculinity

The question sent in for today was specifically about how to help our boys navigate “locker room talk” so that they don’t become a victim of some kind by not participating, but can handle those situations they may find themselves in. The topic of respect is at the forefront once again – respecting our children and holding boundaries so they learn what that feels and looks like.

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Podcast Episode #42 – Raising Boys Q&A: Wiping, Connection, & Respect

I’m excited to welcome Nathan McTague back as we discuss some questions that listeners sent in. We heard from many of you that you enjoyed our discussion about raising emotionally-healthy boys, and we hope you enjoy the Q&A as well. We’ll be spending the next three episodes on listener questions.

In this episode, we start with early life and the developmental process that happens, and weaving in empathy and connection as our children grow into adults.

Question: Why can’t my kid just wipe?

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Podcast Episode #40 – Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys (part 1)

How can we best support our boys when they are young and as they grow into men? There are many cultural messages for boys around feelings, so how do we navigate that territory? How do we stay respectful of our boys’ biology and neurobiology? We want to make sure we are creating the space for their emotions and really respecting that they’re different than we are as women and moms.

In this episode, Rebecca talks with Nathan McTague of The Center for Emotional Education. They discuss how emotion is actually processed in the brain, the real needs of children who are experiencing intense feelings, and how testosterone causes all kinds of “wonkiness” for teenage boys.

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Podcast Episode #38 – You can put “Sad” in your pocket

I told her that if she was feeling sad and either she couldn’t find someone in that moment to give her a hug, *or* if she just didn’t want to have to do it right then, because she was out or having fun or something, then she could put her Sad in her pocket for later. I went on to say that she couldn’t put Sad in the trash can. There’s no getting rid of it and not taking care of it. But she could put it in her pocket and then later she could pull it out when it was a better time and get her hugs then.

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Podcast Episode #37 – Gun Violence: Supporting Your Kids

Kids may or may not have words for what’s happening for them or what they’re worried about, but they will show you that something is bothering them through their behavior. They may be more aggressive than usual. They may seem sullen or quieter than normal. They may seem to have more energy. They may start to get sick more frequently or more severely. Our culture may label these things as misbehaviors or unrelated to things that have happened, but I’ve learned that most of the time they’re actually signs of stress, of a story that they can’t make sense of, or something that they need more support to handle.

Today we’re talking about how to support our kids and understand their experience of gun violence in our country.

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Podcast Episode #36 – Gun Violence: Finding Your Mama Bear

Finding your Mama Bear is about your perception of safety and doing something. It’s about the need to keep our children safe and how that impacts our nervous systems.

Find ways to be proactive – whether that’s pulling your child out of school until the problems are properly addressed at least in the short term, finding programs or efforts that you support that you feel are moving things in the right direction – whatever that means to you.

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Podcast Episode #35 – Gun Violence as a Collective Trauma

The collective trauma that many Americans have experienced in bearing witness to such tragedies in schools and other public spaces, that either are part of their daily environment or resemble them closely, has caused many people to develop an ongoing defensive stance that can resemble the post-traumatic response of actual trauma survivors. Listen in to learn more about how our nervous systems are responding to this trauma.

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Podcast Episode #34 – Gun Violence: Listening to Understand

We’re all scared right now and in that fear, no one is really listening to anyone else. How can we make it different? Why does it matter? We need to start with listening, and not just to the people who agree with us. But we need to find ways to make it safer to have the conversations we need to have and to listen to one another. In this series, we’re going to be looking at what it takes to really listen to understand and another way we can look at what’s happening with the boys and men in our culture that I haven’t seen anyone talking about. Let’s raise our consciousness and work together to help our kids!

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