The Importance of the Relationship Principle 2: The parent-child relationship is more important than any behavioral intervention, consequence, or punishment. The bottom line is that parenting techniques that use threats and coercion are really threatening the child’s core needs for love and attention (what a child needs to survive) to gain temporary compliance. A compliant child is very different than
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Regulation and Dysregulation We’ll be shifting how we look at our children and their behavior by taking a closer look at the foundational principles of Consciously Parenting. You may just discover something about yourself in this process, too. Principle 1: All behavior is a communication. Behavior reflects the internal state of the individual and the relationship’s level of connection. New
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Connect with Your Inner Guidance Inner guidance doesn’t have formulaic solutions, but always come back to connecting in relationship, holding the importance of everyone’s needs whenever possible. By making conscious parenting decisions, we have the power to create connection instead of disconnection, love instead of fear, peace instead of discord. Then we can return to our natural “perfect” state of
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Our (cute) Parenting Magnifying Glass Parenting our own children provides a unique opportunity to learn about our early experiences. It puts a magnifying glass on those things that worked well for our own parents and those that didn’t. It allows us to understand how we feel about our own needs and the needs of our children, but only if we
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Welcome! I’m so happy that you’ve found your way here! I’m going to be sharing 30 days of parenting excerpts with you from my first ground breaking book, Consciously Parenting: What It Really Takes to Raise Emotionally Healthy Families. These ideas radically shifted my own family life and have enriched the lives of hundreds of families around the world. I’d
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Living in southern Mexico where the spoken native languages (Spanish and many indigenous languages are spoken here) are not my native language has created a lot of interesting situations for me. I’ve learned how easy it is, really in any language, to miss communicate. The Fence Here’s a story to illustrate the basic idea. My neighbors, who are also my
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Maybe you’ve been in this situation recently. There’s a conversation you need to have with your partner (or another important person) and they’re not willing to have the conversation or they react defensively. Or maybe your partner is trying to have a conversation with you and you’re the one who is feeling defensive. Maybe it’s a recurring theme and you’ve
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Who are the emotionally safe people in your life? Who can you share anything with (or most things with) and know that your thoughts and feelings are safe with that person? Today, we’re going to be exploring what a safe relationship feels like to you, and we’re going to talk about why that’s important especially if you’re healing a relationship.
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Rebecca is answering your questions about healing relationships. If you have a question, you can add it to the comments or email info @ consciouslyparenting (.) com (without the spaces) and ask your question. We’ll be choosing questions to answer each week about relationships with couples, parents and children (of any age), extended family members, and friends. Question: I have
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Principle #8- No person is an island. We need to create communities of support for ourselves and our children. We need to take care of ourselves so that we can take care of our children and our families. When a relationship isn’t working well in your life, it’s essential to find ways to take good care of yourself and find
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