The Cultural Paradox of Feelings: Better Relationships in 2 Minutes #5

Everywhere we go as parents, the prevailing information is that we need to train our children out of their feelings and expressions. We insist our kids use words and find a logical way of expressing themselves, which in and of itself isn’t a bad idea. But when do our kids actually have the space to express their feelings?

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The Brain Isn’t Just About Logic: Better Relationships in 2 Minutes #4

A number of years ago, I took a course with Dr. Bruce Perry, who is a neuroscientist, brain researcher and clinician. One of the things that I found to be most fascinating is that our brains aren’t really meant to be logical all the time and that’s actually ok. We’ve been taught by our culture that if it isn’t logical, it isn’t valuable. Period. But Dr. Perry’s research blew that out of the water for me.

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Parenting Feelings: Better Relationships in 2 Minutes #2

Feelings. We don’t really know what to do when someone is having really big feelings about something. When I became a parent, I had just about finished my masters in marriage and family therapy. I had been studying attachment and trauma along with what makes a relationship healthy, and I thought I was prepared for parenting.

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Introduction: Better Relationships in 2 Minutes #1

In Better Relationships in 2 Minutes, I’m going to be exploring a wide variety of topics that support creating and nurturing healthy relationships along with healing relationships when they aren’t doing well. My ideas are based on the latest research in attachment, epigenetics, Prenatal and Perinatal Psychology, sociology, systems theory, neurobiology, trauma resolution, and more.

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FAQs for Listening to Feelings

Has the course already started? How is this different from your other courses in the Learning Center? What is a Healing Story Circle? Are we actually learning to rewrite stories with our kids? Does this work for older kids or even adults? How much time will it take each week? Do I need to go somewhere for this course?

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14 Changes to Support Breastfeeding We Need to Make Now

So why doesn’t everyone breastfeed? Or better yet, what can we do to make breastfeeding more possible?
It turns out that the answer is almost as complex as breastmilk itself.

I have met so many mothers who wanted to breastfeed their babies, but weren’t able to do so or had great difficulty getting started. Why? Here are some things we can do to make it more likely that mother-baby dyads will be able to breastfeed.

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