Can’t we all just be regulated all the time?

I was talking to a mom about her holidays, and she was really feeling discouraged about how things had gone. Her kids had been fighting a lot and the image she had about how their time together would go didn’t match what actually happened at all. She felt really discouraged. I think so many of us hold ourselves and our

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The Mis(sed) Communication

Living in southern Mexico where the spoken native languages (Spanish and many indigenous languages are spoken here) are not my native language has created a lot of interesting situations for me. I’ve learned how easy it is, really in any language, to miss communicate. The Fence  Here’s a story to illustrate the basic idea.  My neighbors, who are also my

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Challenging Conversations with Partners

Maybe you’ve been in this situation recently. There’s a conversation you need to have with your partner (or another important person) and they’re not willing to have the conversation or they react defensively. Or maybe your partner is trying to have a conversation with you and you’re the one who is feeling defensive. Maybe it’s a recurring theme and you’ve

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Healing Partner Relationships Together

Healing Partner Relationships Together Healthy partnerships are so important to our well-being. When we have a partner and it is going well, even difficult things can be moved through with the power of two. When a partnership isn’t going well, it can impact every area of your life. Survival Mode When couples come to me and their partnership isn’t doing

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Discovering Your Emotionally Safe People and Why it Matters

Who are the emotionally safe people in your life? Who can you share anything with (or most things with) and know that your thoughts and feelings are safe with that person? Today, we’re going to be exploring what a safe relationship feels like to you, and we’re going to talk about why that’s important especially if you’re healing a relationship.

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What is co-regulation?

Question: Rebecca, I’ve heard you talk about co-regulation and I want to understand more about what that means. I have a toddler and a newborn. How does this apply to our lives? How can this help us to have a more peaceful family life? Is that possible with a newborn and a toddler? Answer: Thank you for your question! First,

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Boundaries and Healing Relationships: Can they co-exist?

Rebecca is answering your questions about healing relationships. If you have a question, you can add it to the comments or email info @ consciouslyparenting (.) com (without the spaces) and ask your question. We’ll be choosing questions to answer each week about relationships with couples, parents and children (of any age), extended family members, and friends. Question: I have

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It’s Never Too Late to Heal Course

It’s Never Too Late to Heal- Course Opens Feb 1! Transforming the Stories of Our Lives Course Course Summary We’re offering a virtual support class for moms* (and partners) to empower you with tools and relationship skills to become confident, competent, connected, and calm, and to learn how to heal your relationships with the people in your life. * We

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