We’re exploring my revised principles for healthy relationships as explored in my new book, It’s Never Too Late to Heal, due out winter 2022. Principle #4– Behaviors occur on a continuum. Behaviors in children and adults correlate to the parents’ own neurodevelopment and attachment status. Responsiveness is the key. On one end of the continuum, you’ve got people who are very
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Principle #3- Children unfold neurosequentially, and high-quality, connected relationships allow for the unfolding. A need met will go away; a need unmet is here to stay. The word neurosequential was coined in the 1990’s by Dr. Bruce Perry, a neuroscientist, brain researcher, and clinician. He explains that our brains develop from back to front (i.e., most primitive to most developed)
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Revised Principle #2- Nothing is more important than the relationship. The relationship we have with others is more important than anything else. We know from research that babies in orphanages who have their physical but not their emotional needs met fail to thrive and frequently die. In addition, the research of Dr. Bruce Perry, a psychiatrist and brain researcher out
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I’ve been hard at work on my 4th book, It’s Never Too Late to Heal and it’s coming in early 2022! This book is written for parents and also for anyone who was once a child or anyone who is in a relationship with someone else who wants the relationship to work and feel better. In my first book, Consciously
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My youngest, who is turning 18 on Friday, came to me last week to talk about something that happened with some of his friends. He was upset at how something had gone when they were playing a game together and he really wanted to talk about it. That conversation shifted into some deep sharing about the connections he was making
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(Tender Topic Mentioned: Infant Loss) A series of serendipitous events over a decade ago profoundly impacted my work and my felt sense understanding of presence, connection, and healing. This is the story of one of my first in-person experiences with Dr. Ray Castellino, DC (ret), RPP, RPE, RCST® my dear friend and mentor who taught me so much about presence,
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When I started The Consciously Parenting Project in 2007, I knew that I had some information that most parents didn’t have that could help create more connection in families. We had been through several years filled with challenges including loss of a baby, really difficult behaviors from young son (and myself, if I’m going to be honest), another pregnancy and
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13 Ways to Support Your Family Through Our Offerings Here at The Consciously Parenting Project! We’ve put together 13 things to support your family’s Consciously Parenting journey and to help us all celebrate! Some are free. Some are low cost. Some we need your input on to determine what you most need! Together, we are changing the world one family
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When your child is doing something that makes no sense to you, you make up a narrative to help make sense of it. Sometimes this story is helpful. Sometimes it’s not. We all do this. It happened to us when we were growing up, too—our parents made up stories about our behaviors. Maybe you’ve had the experience of dreaming when
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