Podcast Episode #29 – Transforming Your Triggers

Taming, Transforming, and Transcending Your Triggers

Unless your parents were highly unique and parented consciously ahead of their time, you were likely disciplined and/or punished for behaviors in an effort to be “socialized.” Mainstream or traditional parenting centered around creating submissive and compliant children who “knew their place.”

The shift is underway, however, and children are coming into a place of more respect and understanding. Parents must consciously attend to their own conditioning and wiring in order to parent this way. It takes awareness and commitment to overcome the past and move toward a different future for your family.

Transforming reactivity to a conscious response is a continuous practice. It’s done in millimeters, not quantum leaps. Little by little we change and grow, by acknowledging our stress triggers and how they feel in the body. Noticing stress and turning it away from our children is the work. Simply naming our stress is wonderful – it shows awareness and inner sensitivity. Modeling how to connect to our internal guidance system is a priceless tool we can offer our children.

Setting the bar too high (ahem, perfectionists) is a recipe for additional stress. Using parenting as a personal growth practice requires us to be more in tune with ourselves in order to connect to others. Kids need to see us authentically transforming stressful reactions so they can do the same.

Listen in on our passionate conversation where we discuss the process of transformation around our stress triggers, as well as the top things parents can do to begin to transform triggers today.



Carrie Contey, PhD is an parenting coach, speaker and author. Her background offers a unique perspective on children, parenting, family life and what it means to be a healthy, happy, whole human being. In her work with thousands of parents all over the world, she guides, supports and inspires her clients to live with a wide-open and courageous heart so that they can approach parenting with both skill and spaciousness.

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  • Rebecca Thompson Hitt, MS, MFT is the founder and executive director of The Consciously Parenting Project (2007). Rebecca loves supporting individuals and parents to grow themselves up in their current relationship challenges. She delights in empowering people to find peace and connection with their loved ones, supporting the transformation of the way we understand our connections. Her holistic approach, which includes our earliest experiences and nervous system patterns, her gentleness and compassion, and her deep listening without pathologizing, helps us to see ourselves and those we care about with new eyes, supporting the transformation needed in the world starting with our closest relationships. With over 30 years of professional experience working with individuals, couples, and families, in addition to her own personal healing work raising her now young adult sons, Rebecca is dedicated to transforming our relationships stories, one relationship and one family at a time.

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Rebecca Thompson Hitt

Rebecca Thompson Hitt, MS, MFT is the founder and executive director of The Consciously Parenting Project (2007). Rebecca loves supporting individuals and parents to grow themselves up in their current relationship challenges. She delights in empowering people to find peace and connection with their loved ones, supporting the transformation of the way we understand our connections. Her holistic approach, which includes our earliest experiences and nervous system patterns, her gentleness and compassion, and her deep listening without pathologizing, helps us to see ourselves and those we care about with new eyes, supporting the transformation needed in the world starting with our closest relationships. With over 30 years of professional experience working with individuals, couples, and families, in addition to her own personal healing work raising her now young adult sons, Rebecca is dedicated to transforming our relationships stories, one relationship and one family at a time.

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