Principle #7- Boundaries are an important part of life and healthy relationships. We can set appropriate limits with others while still respecting their needs and feelings if we are aware of ourselves. This is true for every relationship we have. Boundaries are critical for healthy relationships. When something isn’t safe or doesn’t feel safe to us, we need a boundary. Just

We’re exploring my revised principles for healthy relationships as explored in my new book, It’s Never Too Late to Heal, due out winter 2022. To really understand some else’s behavior, we need to understand that there are two primary experiences that help us to make sense of what we’re seeing. The first are the stories we tell ourselves about what’s

Principle #3-  Children unfold neurosequentially, and high-quality, connected relationships allow for the unfolding. A need met will go away; a need unmet is here to stay.  The word neurosequential was coined in the 1990’s by Dr. Bruce Perry, a neuroscientist, brain researcher, and clinician. He explains that our brains develop from back to front (i.e., most primitive to most developed)

Revised Principle #2- Nothing is more important than the relationship. The relationship we have with others is more important than anything else. We know from research that babies in orphanages who have their physical but not their emotional needs met fail to thrive and frequently die. In addition, the research of Dr. Bruce Perry, a psychiatrist and brain researcher out

I’ve been hard at work on my 4th book, It’s Never Too Late to Heal and it’s coming in early 2022! This book is written for parents and also for anyone who was once a child or anyone who is in a relationship with someone else who wants the relationship to work and feel better. In my first book, Consciously