Have you ever seen Chinese Handcuffs? They’re made of some sort of woven material and your fingers go into either end. When you pull them apart with your fingers inside, as if you want to move your fingers out of it, it tightens. The only way to get your fingers out is to stop struggling, and move in the opposite
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I’ve been working on the part of my book about nurturing relationships. Honestly, I found myself feeling kind of stumped. I’ve found that life circumstances sometimes create irony and laugh in the face of a writer trying to explore a particular topic. I’ve been blessed with a feeling of doubt- that I have no idea what I’m actually trying to say.
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I’m on a bunch of parenting groups on Facebook and am really floored by the responses to questions that have been posed. I read about a 16 year-old who wouldn’t go to school and the commenters were just awful toward the boy. I wrote about that situation in my newsletter Saturday morning talking about how else parents could look at
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I want you to take a moment and think about your closest relationships. They’re probably with people you can share anything with and where it’s safe for you to express your feelings and your deepest concerns. I remember reading Connection Parenting by Pam Leo and she asked you to think about your safe person, describing the tears falling when your
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The next question that inevitably comes up when we’re talking about feelings and maybe not doing a time out is that it means we’re encouraging chaos, that things are going to be out of control, that it means we can’t say no. Creating space for feelings doesn’t mean that your kids can do anything they want. It means that when
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Everywhere we go as parents, the prevailing information is that we need to train our children out of their feelings and expressions. We insist our kids use words and find a logical way of expressing themselves, which in and of itself isn’t a bad idea. But when do our kids actually have the space to express their feelings? I’m Rebecca
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A number of years ago, I took a course with Dr. Bruce Perry, who is a neuroscientist, brain researcher and clinician. One of the things that I found to be most fascinating is that our brains aren’t really meant to be logical all the time and that’s actually ok. We’ve been taught by our culture that if it isn’t logical,
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Have you ever been out in public with your child who is having some sort of big emotional expression? It doesn’t matter if it is exuberantly happy or screaming on the ground. What does it feel like to be out in public in a situation like that? I’m Rebecca Thompson Hitt and this is Better Relationships in 2 Minutes and
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Feelings. We don’t really know what to do when someone is having really big feelings about something. When I became a parent, I had just about finished my masters in marriage and family therapy. I had been studying attachment and trauma along with what makes a relationship healthy, and I thought I was prepared for parenting. Ha! I’m Rebecca Thompson
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My name is Rebecca Thompson Hitt. I have been studying human relationships since I was a teenager, and have been working professionally supporting families since 1994. I have my masters in marriage and family therapy from Barry University and a Bachelor’s in Education from Ball State University. I’m the parent of 2 teen boys and am step-parent to two grown
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