Episode 19 – Time-In Tuesday: Nothing is More Important Than Relationship

So much of what we learn in our families growing up and through cultural norms is that the only way to teach our children the “right” way of doing anything is to bring in some pain. Think about it. When we give a consequence or we punish, we’re bringing in some pain to “help” someone learn a lesson. It may bring about a temporary behavior change, but what is happening to our relationship?

Today is Time-in Tuesday and we’re talking about the things we need to do to shift the way we look at relationships to support the healing that is waiting to happen.

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Episode 1 – All Relationships Can Heal

All Relationships Can Heal. It’s a bold statement, but one that I stand behind.

Most people have a relationship that needs some healing balm. I’ve dedicated my life’s work to helping families to do the healing work to make their lives better, to empower them to create relationships that work, that are emotionally healthy, and to finish what is unfinished in whatever way is possible. In our first episode, you’ll get an introduction to the healing of relationships and what you can expect in our podcast!

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FAQs for Listening to Feelings

Has the course already started? How is this different from your other courses in the Learning Center? What is a Healing Story Circle? Are we actually learning to rewrite stories with our kids? Does this work for older kids or even adults? How much time will it take each week? Do I need to go somewhere for this course?

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Stories of Encouragement: The investment will pay off

Today I want to share a few recent stories from my home where I have been able to see the effects of many years of practicing Consciously Parenting. I have been doing this for 13 years. 13 years of investing in learning about how to parent differently, practicing the way I want to respond to my children’s emotions and behaviors, and developing the language that I want to use with them, and for them to use with me and others.

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The Power of a Date

I date my kids. I date them because I want to know them more and on a deeper level. I date them so our friendship and trust grow. I date them because I love them and want them to know they are safe talking to me. I date them because it’s important to me to give them the time they deserve.

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The Story YOU Make Up about Behaviors – Is it helping you?

When your child is doing something that makes no sense to you, you make up a story to help make sense of it. Sometimes this story is helpful. Sometimes it’s not. We all do this. And it happened to us when we were growing up, too – our parent(s) made up stories about our behaviors.

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FAQs for Your Parenting Instruction Manual

Has the course already started? How is this different from your other courses in the Learning Center? What is a Healing Story Circle? Are we actually learning to rewrite stories with our kids? Does this work for older kids or even adults? How much time will it take each week? Do I need to go somewhere for this course?

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What is a Hidden Story?

So many behaviors are a mystery, especially with our kids. It often seems like they were born a certain way with interesting idiosyncrasies. Most of the time their idiosyncrasies are cute and we don’t worry too much about them. Sometimes they’re annoying. And sometimes they’re worrisome and have an impact on our relationship.

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The happiest time of the year?

My oldest used to have a difficult time around the holidays. It was all too much for her to take in, and she didn’t know how to tell me what it was that caused her to act so unlike herself.

On day when she was four, I took her for a mommy-daughter date to do some Christmas shopping for her dad and sister. Things seemed to be going well. We had chosen items as possible gifts, and she was about to choose which ones were the keepers. We were talking and giggling, and I thought we were having an enjoyable time together.

Then, all of a sudden, she lost it.

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Beyond “Because I said so!”

Q: There are times when I have to say no to something my child wants, but I’m not sure how to handle it when my child gets upset. Sometimes I just give in and let her have what she wants, but that doesn’t feel right and it makes it harder the next time I need to say no. I hate seeing her so mad. My parents always used to say, “Because I said so!” after they used the word no with me, but I’d like to do things differently. Any suggestions?

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