When I think of the word presence, I don’t really think of fun. Maybe that’s true for you, too. I think of someone sitting in a lotus position meditating, trying to let the thoughts go and coming back to their breath. That doesn’t sound like FUN to me. Peaceful, yes. But fun, no. But what if I told you that when we’re having fun, we’re actually in the present moment? Today we’re going to be talking about FUN and what it has to do with being more present and some ideas for what it can look like in your life.Continue
When a relationship isn’t working well in your life, it’s essential to find ways to take good care of yourself and find the community resources that make that possible. Most of us are under-supported when things are going well, but there is an even bigger chasm between what we need and what we are getting in terms of support when we’re stressed out or having a difficult time. My name is Rebecca Thompson Hitt and this is Thankful Thursday on the All Relationships Can Heal podcast. Today we’re going to be talking about the important role of self and community care in healing relationships.Continue
A boundary is when we say ‘no.’ It might be ‘no’ to your toddler playing in the street or a ‘no’ to an unhealthy relationship. Some people have ‘no’ down really well. Others really struggle with it. But very few have the ‘no’ down with room for feelings and respect. This is an essential part of healthy relationships and boundaries are a critical part of healing relationships. I’m Rebecca Thompson Hitt and this is the All Relationships Can Heal podcast. Today is Wisdom Wednesday and we’re talking about Respectful Boundaries.Continue
Feelings are often misunderstood, and a lot of effort goes into distracting our kids and even sometimes ourselves from our feelings. When we can create the space for our own feelings and our kids’ feelings or the feelings of our loved ones, we actually create more opportunity for healing to happen.Today is Time-In Tuesday and we’re talking about feelings and what they have to do with healing.Continue
Relationships are created out of the experiences that happen in real life and the stories we make up about the things that happened. These stories can be true or maybe not quite true. And these stories can help us to heal or they can make things worse. Today we’re going to talk about those stories, where they come from, and what that has to do with healing.Continue
We’ve been talking about my 8 Guiding Principles and this last week, we’ve explored the first 4. Today, I would love to talk about fun in the midst of healing. We can’t stay in the intensity of the way most people think about healing. AND healing needs to include fun.
So much of what we experience that needs to be healed is held in our bodies. And for many of us, that means we disconnect in some ways from our bodies. When our kids are given the space, they move their bodies, sometimes in annoying ways. As adults, we need to do the same, but maybe with less of the annoying part. So, today, on the All Relationships Can Heal podcast, Fun Friday is going to be about moving your body.Continue
When we think about difficult behaviors, very seldom are we thankful. Most of the time, understandably, we just want those behaviors to stop. So much parenting information suggests that we ignore or we punish behaviors if we don’t like them and that is supposed to make changes. But behaviors actually give us clues about the things that have happened to us earlier in our lives that are trying to heal. What if we could bring curiosity into the behaviors we see in ourselves and in our loved ones? Would that give us more space to actually see the behaviors for what they actually are and to find some gratitude for them? I’m Rebecca Thompson Hitt and this is the All Relationships Can Heal podcast. Today we’re talking about my guiding principle #4.Continue
Today on the All Relationships Can Heal podcast, we’re going to be talking about my 3rdguiding principle about our development. When we can understand a little bit more about how we develop and grow and how the growth creates patterns, we can start to understand ourselves and our loved ones in a different light. And the light is where the healing can happen. I’m Rebecca Thompson Hitt and you’re listening to the All Relationships Can Heal podcast and this is Wisdom Wednesday.Continue
So much of what we learn in our families growing up and through cultural norms is that the only way to teach our children the “right” way of doing anything is to bring in some pain. Think about it. When we give a consequence or we punish, we’re bringing in some pain to “help” someone learn a lesson. It may bring about a temporary behavior change, but what is happening to our relationship?
Today is Time-in Tuesday and we’re talking about the things we need to do to shift the way we look at relationships to support the healing that is waiting to happen.Continue
What does healing really mean? Whether it is a pattern that’s been passed through the generations or something that’s happened in your lifetime, whether you’re the one who needs to heal or you’re wanting to heal a relationship with someone else, we need to know what it means to heal. Today we look at one of the ways we can begin to shift the way we look at relationships with the first guiding principle: All behavior is a communication and what that means for healing is our topic today on Mindful Monday!Continue