The Consciously Parenting Project

Support for individuals, couples and families who strive towards healthier, happier relationships

Almost Every Day....

I hear stories from people who are struggling with someone's expression of feelings, or with boundaries, or who wants to know what "healthy relationships" look like or feel like.

"What do I do when I can't listen to (my partner, my child, my friend's) feelings anymore?"

"This situation isn't working for me, but I have no idea what a boundary is going to look like in this situation. What's healthy for me may hurt someone I love."

Sometimes it is a boundary someone needs with themselves when something they're doing isn't healthy for them.

Maybe it's your feelings that you need some support with. (When was the last time you lost your cool or your patience with someone you love?)

This is what S.O.A.R. School is all about! Together we learn to see our own blindspots, and to find our way to healthier relationships in our lives.

Registration is open now until Monday, September 23, 2024. Registration won't open again until January, so this is your opportunity to get some additional support!

This next module is all about feelings and boundaries in healthy connections! And it shows up everywhere in our lives. Here's an example.

One night last week, we (my husband, our friend, and myself) went to the beach for sunset and a dad was trying to get his daughter out of the water. She looked about 7 years old. She was wearing a mermaid tail and she was flopping slowly in the water as her father called her to get ready to leave. I think at one point, she was almost crawling backwards in the water away from her dad. We could feel his frustration with the situation. I could feel that he was trying hard not to lose his patience in the public place, but his daughter was having her own experience playing in the water and enjoying being a mermaid. His tone was agitated and he kept getting louder. And his daughter kept ignoring him, or saying that she couldn't get out of the water because she was wearing her mermaid tail. Feelings (dad's) and boundaries (parent to child) are important themes here.

We often do what was done to us and that may or may not be effective and it may or may not be healthy for the relationship. We're going to spend three months together mastering these ideas and supporting each other to apply them to our lives with our people, whoever they are and however old the other person is (your child, your parent, your sister, your partner...).

How do we do that? What I've found to be most effective is to have a space to learn and practice the ideas and ask questions (we call these our livestream calls), and a second space for you to share your own stories to make your own connections with the support of others (Healing Story Circles). This combination is way more effective to learn these concepts than 1:1 sessions alone because we're practicing the ideas with each other in our small group container.

We receive formal education to learn to read, write, and to learn how the world works in many ways. But we receive almost no training for the most important aspects of our lives: our relationships. I'm here to offer a path to learn through an experiential online co-created container to support your relationships to SOAR!

Together, we'll co-create a container to create connection, nurture yourself and your most important relationships, and learn the art of repair.

But what makes this unique is that we're looking at the story in our bodies from our early life experiences. It's a deeper understanding of your relationships and we're going to do that together here.

Learn. Practice. Apply. First in the online world together and then in your most important relationships at home with space to come back from those real-world experiences to get more support!

What is Relationship S.O.A.R?

  • Relationships S.O.A.R. School is an interactive opportunity to learn holistic relationship tools (including attachment research and what it looks like in real life, basic brain science, somatic psychology, polyvagal theory), then to practice and apply the information and skills together in real time for three-months at a time. Our current module is about Feelings, Boundaries, and Healthy Connection!
  • Present time situation focus. We’re going to co-create this experience together using what is happening in our lives in present time, focusing on connection to our bodies and our adult selves.
  • Short, digestible content. You have will short video or written content to enjoy on your own time.
  • Live support opportunities weekly. Apply the information you're learning to your unique situation. Connect with yourself and with others.
  • Deepen your understanding through our live workshop. We will have at least 1 online workshop over a weekend during our three months together to practice the skills together through exercises over a 3-hour window of time.
  • Content Library access included (with monthly payment plan). Our content library includes a wide range of information and support for many relationship topics, from sleep to tantrums and emotional upsets, to strategies to connect with yourself through writing, healing after something traumatic happens, etc.
  • Body-centered content and experiences. This relationship journey includes information from the world of Prenatal and Perinatal Somatic Psychology, which is the study of our earliest life experiences on our nervous system. We must include our bodies in the conversation about relationships because many of our earliest experiences are stored there. 98% of our decisions are from subconscious patterns held in the body, so we need to make the subconscious conscious to make decisions about what’s happening in the moment.
  • Relationships S.O.A.R. is about helping your relationships to handle the ups and downs of life, using information from the body to optimize our attachment relationships- Somatically Optimizing Attachment Relationships. And this module looks specifically at attachment and how that shows up in feelings and boundaries!

What We Will Be Doing Together

  • Weekly livestreams on relevant relationship topics based on our themes (Nurturing Relationships is our current theme)
  • Weekly pre-recorded short videos or short written text to watch or read on your own time to enhance your understanding of the topics.
  • Focus on your relationship with yourself (a healthy relationship with oneself is the foundation of relationships with someone else), relationships with a second person (dyads- couples, relationship with a child, your parent, friends, etc.) and relationships with three people (or more) and we’ll explore how to keep them healthy.
  • You’ll have opportunities every week for small group experiences to get support for your relationships challenges and learn from others as you listen and learn from other real-life, real-time situations.
  • You will have access to a weekly Healing Story Circle supported by at least two facilitators. These containers are a great place to do your own processing, to get clear on what’s happening for you and what you’re needing for yourself.

What will I receive from this experience?

  • Relationship skills based on the research, applicable to real life. The information is distilled down into usable ideas to support you in real time. No reading boring research papers or textbooks, or even books to try to figure out how to apply it to your situation. We’ve done that for you already and figured out what it looks like in the real world. We’re here to support you.
  • You’ll get support for yourself and what’s happening in your own world in our small group containers, where you’ll have space to share (to your comfort) what is happening and receive real-time support. You’ll get to witness the processes of others and learn.
  • Every space we co-create will include the skills we’re learning, so it’s an application of the ideas in the way we go about the process. It’s a living laboratory where you can feel what we’re talking about and try it out with others who are working on the same skills.
  • While this three-month-long experience won't prevent challenges from happening, it will equip you with skills to handle the feelings and boundary challenges that will inevitably happen in life.

It's for you if...

  • Desire skills and confidence to handle feelings, boundaries, and connections with yourself and other people in your life.
  • You’re needing space to nurture yourself so you can show up in your life and relationships in the way you desire.
  • You’re needing extra layers of support during this season of life.
  • You’re wanting a safe space to practice meeting yourself in deeper ways.
  • You’re wanting to connect deeper with your loved ones.
  • You’re looking for conscious community for authentic relating.
  • You want practices that you can take away from this experience that will help you consciously navigate through everyday life.
  • You’re a young adult who wants to learn skills to support healthy relationships throughout your lifetime.
  • You’re coupled and you’d like to work on creating a healthy connection with your partner.
  • You’re a parent of a child of any age and you’d like to have support for a healthy relationship.
  • You’d like to connect with others in a deeper way but you’re not sure how to do it.
  • You’re ready to learn more experientially rather than just reading a book or finding free resources.

It's not for you if...

  • You’re in crisis. This container isn’t meant to support someone in an acute crisis.
  • You aren’t looking for a group experience.
  • You don’t want to go deep, touch on feelings, or figure out boundaries.
  • You’re fine with the status of your relationships and their level of connection.
  • You’d rather not connect with others who are on a similar journey.
  • You’re not willing to invest time, money, and energy into yourself and your relationships.

 

What is Included?

  • Weekly live streams with Rebecca to engage with the community, ask questions about skills, and situations you’re challenged by.
  • Access to our Village, which is a safe space off Facebook and other social media platforms. You’re in the space with nothing else, so you won’t get lost down the FB or IG or TikTok rabbit hole when you’re going to participate in something.
  • Weekly short videos or short written text content to help you learn the skills.
  • Invitation to participate in online discussions on the topics.
  • Weekly Healing Story Circles, which are a space for you to do your own processing in a safe container so you are clear within yourself, have space for your own feelings and experience, and can get support for what’s happening in your life.
  • Up to 3 hours a week of support for whatever life is throwing at you. You have choice and can decide how much of that you use, but this can be a serious layer of support if you’re going through a difficult relationship challenge or if you’re really dedicated to learning these skills!
  • The Village app to use from your smartphone to access all content. There’s also a desktop version. Notifications are customizable on both the app and desktop versions to help you to stay connected- with choice about when you hear from us!

What are we doing together?

  • 3-months-long exploration to support different aspects of relationships. Starting in September, we’ll be looking at nurturing relationships, including the importance of feelings, attachment, boundaries, and growing our relationship bonds. This is the heart of relationships.
  • September 10-December 13 Heart of Relationships
  • January-March It's Never too Late to Heal: Healing and Repair of Relationships

This is part of a year-long program with opportunities for new families and individuals to join at the start of new content. But you don't need to start at the beginning. Each module stands on its own. This is your time to get support! This program won't open again until January.

Module 3: Nurturing Your Attachment Relationships with the body in mind

September- Feelings: Yours and Theirs

October- Boundaries: Why no is critical to a healthy attachment relationship and what gets in the way of a clear and kind no

November and December- Secure Base: Moving out into the world and coming back into connection for littles and bigs. (We will break starting December 13 with no new content, but we'll offer continuing live calls for monthly plan members to have support through the holidays)

What's coming up next??

Module 4: Healing and Repair of Relationships: What to Do to Support Reconnection with Yourself and Others

January- What is Repair? How to return to connection

February- Healing Your Relationship with Yourself

March- Healing Alone (held in community): When the relationship that needs to heal can't heal directly due to death, mental illness, or the person is unwilling or unable)

 

What is My Investment?

  • We have two payment options. The first option is a monthly plan and it includes access to the content in SOAR and also our full content library on a wide variety of topics. The second plan is a one-time payment for the three months and it doesn't include the full content library. If you are unable to afford any of these tiers, please email us. We are offering a limited number of need-based scholarships.Remember, this is up to 12 hours of support per month, and connection with others on a similar journey. We value each Healing Story Circle at $25, so that support alone is $100/mo if you paid for them individually. And that’s not including the content, workshops, or other live support offerings.

    Compare to one-hour of 1:1 support with Rebecca at $175. You get the information, wisdom, and support at a fraction of the price.

    $50/mo or $150 for the 3-months with access to the full content library

    $199 one-time payment for the 3-months

Relationship S.O.A.R. is being hosted in the Consciously Connected Village

The Village is the newest project of the Consciously Parenting Project, and you can access it through an app on your phone or tablet, or a website on your computer. It's private and everything you need is altogether, from content, to chats, to Zoom calls.

To Join Relationships S.O.A.R. and start your journey in the Village, click the links below:

If you are a member of the Consciously Connected Village

Email Rebecca @ consciouslyparenting (dot) com for your own special link to join.

FAQ's

Question: I don’t have children and I’m not in a partnership. I live alone with my cats. Is this Relationships School for me?

Answer: Yes. We were all children once and we’re looking at patterns of relationship from our own experiences as children and how those show up in present time. You don’t need to have children or be in a relationship right now to benefit from the relationship skills and practices.

Question: My life feels really full already. How much time will this take out of my already busy life?

Answer: If you can dedicate on average an hour a week, you’ll be way ahead of where you are now in a year. If you attend one or two Healing Story Circles per month, and enjoy the short video content, and pop onto one of the other live calls during the month, that could be between 4 and 6 hours per month of support to help make your already full life just a little bit easier. All live events are scheduled in advance so you can put them on your calendar. But if that feels like too much, it probably isn’t the right time for you to participate.

Question: I am a new grandparent. Can this help me to have a better relationship with my new grandson?

Answer: Yes! This is a wonderful time to get some extra support to understand the relationship needs for your new grandson, as well as your adult child who is now a parent! Both relationships need special care right now and this is a perfect time to learn more!

Question: I wasn't part of the first two modules. Can I still join?

Answer: Yes! You are very welcome to join us. This content stands on its own, so you can jump in and join in for the experiences with us starting today!

Question: I have a specific question that was not addressed here, what can I do?

Answer: Everyone is different and on their own path. Please send me an e-mail with a title of S.O.A.R. Question to Rebecca@ConsciouslyParenting.com and I will be happy to address it with you.

Author

  • Rebecca Thompson Hitt

    Rebecca is passionate about creating safe spaces where learning about oneself in relationship to others can organically happen, both online and in-person. She offers professional trainings, as well as group experiences for individuals, couples, and families looking for personal growth using basic neuroscience, epigenetics, attachment theory, trauma, neurobiology, Polyvagal Theory, and Prenatal and Perinatal Somatic Psychology. Rebecca empowers individuals and families to co-create the connected relationships they desire. She is the author of 4 books and lives in Oaxaca, Mexico with her husband and two young adult sons.

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