Taming, Transforming, and Transcending Your Triggers
In this final discussion with Carrie Contey, we take the topic of triggers beyond the day-to-day experience of stress and struggle to the level of personal transcendence. It’s a delicious conversation that will refuel your parenting energy. Here, we’re offering a broader perspective of what it means to be triggered into a stressful reaction in your daily life with kids.
This is the last (wonderful) piece to the puzzle of what to do about being triggered as a parent.
The first step is awareness around your personal stress triggers and how you react emotionally and behaviorally. (Carrie urges us to allow several years with this important step alone!)
Next we learn how to move from unconscious reaction to deliberate responding. Making this habit change also takes time, effort, and much patience. We learn to leave perfectionism and ultra-high standards at the door, embrace self-compassion, and step slowly towards new patterns and ways of responding.
Finally, we’re opening up to a higher level of personal response-ability as we understand how parenting leads us towards personal growth and spiritual development. We open to a larger perspective of our purpose and gifts in the guise of obstacles. The ways our children push our buttons allows conscious parents to uncover what needs to be healed in a way no other guru could.
Carrie gives us a few key ideas on how we make the shift towards transcendence. This is the gold for you to discover. True transcendence involves techniques that bring unconscious past emotions into the light of full acceptance. Allowing and re-experiencing old wounds is frightening to most of us, but is truly the only way to attain personal integration, healing, and wholeness.
I know you’ll enjoy this brief but juicy conversation that speaks to the heart of what it means to be a conscious parent.
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Dr. Shefali Tsabary: The Conscious Parent: Transforming Ourselves, Empowering Our Children
Carrie Contey, PhD is an parenting coach, speaker and author. Her background offers a unique perspective on children, parenting, family life and what it means to be a healthy, happy, whole human being. In her work with thousands of parents all over the world, she guides, supports and inspires her clients to live with a wide-open and courageous heart so that they can approach parenting with both skill and spaciousness.