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The happiest time of the year?

December 12, 2017May 28, 2018 Jessica Drummond 0 Comments attachment parenting, challenges, connection, emotion, emotions, feelings, parenting, relationship, tantrums

My oldest used to have a difficult time around the holidays. It was all too much for her to take in, and she didn’t know how to tell me what it was that caused her to act so unlike herself.

On day when she was four, I took her for a mommy-daughter date to do some Christmas shopping for her dad and sister. Things seemed to be going well. We had chosen items as possible gifts, and she was about to choose which ones were the keepers. We were talking and giggling, and I thought we were having an enjoyable time together.

Then, all of a sudden, she lost it.

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Feeling Unsafe is a Fast Track to Red

November 2, 2017May 28, 2018 Rebecca Thompson Hitt 0 Comments brain stoplight, connection, Consciously Parenting, disconnection, emotion, emotions, feelings, healthy relationships, parenting, red light, relationship, safety, tantrums

So when you or your child has fast-tracked to red, keep in mind that, deep down, there’s a feeling of not being safe. Does knowing this change how you feel about what’s happening? Instead of asking what you can do to make a behavior stop, ask, “What do you need to feel safe? What does my child need to feel safe?” And see what happens.

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Podcast Episode #26 – Healing Stories in Everyday Life

October 27, 2017July 13, 2018 Rebecca Thompson Hitt 0 Comments communication, connection, Connection Parenting, Consciously Parenting, emotion, emotions, feelings, healing stories, healthy relationships, parenting, relationship, support, tantrums

Rebecca and Lianne are back again this week to talk about how stories can help with the small hurts and disappointments of everyday life. Story Healing isn’t just a technique to be used when there is trauma, but it can be an effective tool to help move through normal tantrums and upsets.

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When You’re the One Who’s Losing It

October 3, 2017May 28, 2018 Rebecca Thompson Hitt 0 Comments challenges, communication, connection, Consciously Parenting, disconnection, emotion, emotional upsets, emotions, feelings, healthy relationships, parenting, relationship, repair, support, tantrums, temper tantrums

Maybe you can relate to my own tantrum story. This wasn’t my best parenting day and I’d like to say that it was also my worst, but it wasn’t. It’s a snapshot. A moment of time. And you probably have them, too.

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The Brain Stoplight

September 28, 2017May 28, 2018 Rebecca Thompson Hitt 0 Comments book, brain stoplight, connection, Consciously Parenting, emotions, feelings, healthy relationships, parenting, relationship, tantrums

This post is an excerpt from Chapter 2 of Consciously Parenting: What it Really Takes to Raise Emotionally Healthy Families. It also includes a video of Rebecca explaining the Brain Stoplight.

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Learning to Navigate Emotional Upsets and Tantrums at Any Age

August 29, 2017May 28, 2018 Rebecca Thompson Hitt 0 Comments balance, boundaries, challenges, communication, connection, Consciously Parenting, education, emotion, emotional upsets, emotions, feelings, healthy relationships, parenting, parenting class, relationship, respect, tantrums

When we recognize that our children have reasons for those upsets (even if we don’t really get it), it gives us the opportunity to connect and actually help make it better this time, and the next time, too. Learning the skills to regulate and create more connection in the moment helps everyone to feel better, no matter how old we are and no matter what we call it.

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Tantrums Aren’t Just for Toddlers

August 24, 2017May 28, 2018 Lianne March 4 Comments challenges, connection, Connection Parenting, Consciously Parenting, feelings, healing, healthy relationships, parenting, relationship, tantrums

When you have little ones, there is a lot of talk about how “it’s just a phase” and “this too shall pass,” whether it’s about picky eating, tantrums, or some other behavior deemed inappropriate in our society. While it is true that many of those behaviors do pass with time, I definitely wasn’t expecting to still witness full toddler-style tantrums with my child at 8 years old.

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An Alternative View of Tantrums and Emotional Upsets

March 13, 2017May 28, 2018 Rebecca Thompson Hitt 2 Comments Crossing the Bridge, emotional expression, emotions, Hedy and Yumi Schleifer, marriage, parenting partners, support, tantrums, temper tantrum

Think of someone you feel supports you- maybe a good friend or perhaps your partner. What does this person do? Do they try to fix it? Give you a solution? Send you away? Hang up the phone until you can calm yourself down? No.

Someone who supports you probably notices how you’re feeling and stops what they’re doing to be with you. This is someone who wants you to tell them more. To keep going. Who will help hold space for the tears, the anger, the frustration.

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