The Power of a Date

I date my kids. I date them because I want to know them more and on a deeper level. I date them so our friendship and trust grow. I date them because I love them and want them to know they are safe talking to me. I date them because it’s important to me to give them the time they deserve.


The Story YOU Make Up about Behaviors – Is it helping you?

When your child is doing something that makes no sense to you, you make up a story to help make sense of it. Sometimes this story is helpful. Sometimes it’s not. We all do this. And it happened to us when we were growing up, too – our parent(s) made up stories about our behaviors. Read More


FAQs for Your Parenting Instruction Manual

Has the course already started? How is this different from your other courses in the Learning Center? What is a Healing Story Circle? Are we actually learning to rewrite stories with our kids? Does this work for older kids or even adults? How much time will it take each week? Do I need to go somewhere for this course?


What is a Hidden Story?

So many behaviors are a mystery, especially with our kids. It often seems like they were born a certain way with interesting idiosyncrasies. Most of the time their idiosyncrasies are cute and we don’t worry too much about them. Sometimes they’re annoying. And sometimes they’re worrisome and have an impact on our relationship.


The happiest time of the year?

My oldest used to have a difficult time around the holidays. It was all too much for her to take in, and she didn’t know how to tell me what it was that caused her to act so unlike herself. On day when she was four, I took her for a mommy-daughter date to do Read More


Beyond “Because I said so!”

Q: There are times when I have to say no to something my child wants, but I’m not sure how to handle it when my child gets upset. Sometimes I just give in and let her have what she wants, but that doesn’t feel right and it makes it harder the next time I need Read More


Podcast Episode #27 – Emotional Healing After Trauma

My story is about the incredible power of Story Healing and how my family was able to get through a really tough time with the help of this knowledge. I am forever grateful that I was able to help my daughter (and all of us) to heal emotionally from her difficult experience specifically because of the support I received from Rebecca to do this work.


Feeling Unsafe is a Fast Track to Red

So when you or your child has fast-tracked to red, keep in mind that, deep down, there’s a feeling of not being safe. Does knowing this change how you feel about what’s happening? Instead of asking what you can do to make a behavior stop, ask, “What do you need to feel safe? What does my child need to feel safe?” And see what happens.


Podcast Episode #26 – Story Healing in Everyday Life

Rebecca and Lianne are back again this week to talk about how stories can help with the small hurts and disappointments of everyday life. Story Healing isn’t just a technique to be used when there is trauma, but it can be an effective tool to help move through normal tantrums and upsets.


Time for Feelings

It doesn’t mean that we never set limits because we plan on that extra time for feelings. Sometimes we need to say no. Sometimes it can’t be what they need in that moment. But we still need to acknowledge our child and his feelings. There is nothing more important than relationship! Nothing.


The Secret Gift

On my daughter’s first birthday, after her party and her first taste of sugar, and after all the guests left, I sat down in the quiet of my house and wrote her a letter. Now, I have a nice stack for each of them, tied with a colorful ribbon. They don’t know they exist, and I can’t wait to give them some day.


When You’re the One Who’s Losing It

Maybe you can relate to my own tantrum story. This wasn’t my best parenting day and I’d like to say that it was also my worst, but it wasn’t. It’s a snapshot. A moment of time. And you probably have them, too.