So when you or your child has fast-tracked to red, keep in mind that, deep down, there’s a feeling of not being safe. Does knowing this change how you feel about what’s happening? Instead of asking what you can do to make a behavior stop, ask, “What do you need to feel safe? What does my child need to feel safe?” And see what happens.
Red light, or our survival brain, isn’t a state we want to spend all our days in. But when necessary, it can provide the energy to lift a car off of another a person, or do whatever else is necessary to protect our families. That is truly the gift of the Mama Bear.