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Cultivating Kindness in Your Kids

They were up on the ropes course at MOSI. My son was about 9 years-old at the time and he was fearlessly navigating the twists and turns and the narrow spots with ease about 30 feet off the ground. I was down on the ground observing, seriously in awe of his fearlessness and skill. He Read More

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Stories of Encouragement: The investment will pay off

Today I want to share a few recent stories from my home where I have been able to see the effects of many years of practicing Consciously Parenting. I have been doing this for 13 years. 13 years of investing in learning about how to parent differently, practicing the way I want to respond to Read More

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What’s Your Child’s Experience?

Several years ago, I was struggling with my 11-year-old son’s transition to school in the morning. I just wanted him to get up and go to school! He loved his school and I really couldn’t understand what the problem was with getting there on time. He was so slow in the morning and it was Read More

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As my children enter adolescence

I want to look back on these years – these 18 short years – and know that, while I may not have cherished every moment along the way, I really didn’t wish away the time or opt out of opportunities for connection. I want my son to know that even when I get frustrated, I still like him.

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In times like these, remember the helpers

I had a really moving conversation with my 12-year-old this afternoon about the Orlando massacre. He was talking about what he’s heard – so much about the person who killed and hurt so many innocent people. He doesn’t understand how someone could kill people because of who they love and he said, “Why are there so many bad people in the world?” I could feel the heaviness in his question. It was in that moment that I realized he is only hearing the bad parts – and there are plenty – in this awful time when many of my friends and clients and loved ones are no longer safe.

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The Story YOU Make Up about Behaviors – Is it helping you?

When your child is doing something that makes no sense to you, you make up a story to help make sense of it. Sometimes this story is helpful. Sometimes it’s not. We all do this. And it happened to us when we were growing up, too – our parent(s) made up stories about our behaviors. Read More

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FAQs for Your Parenting Instruction Manual

Has the course already started? How is this different from your other courses in the Learning Center? What is a Healing Story Circle? Are we actually learning to rewrite stories with our kids? Does this work for older kids or even adults? How much time will it take each week? Do I need to go somewhere for this course?

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What is a Hidden Story?

So many behaviors are a mystery, especially with our kids. It often seems like they were born a certain way with interesting idiosyncrasies. Most of the time their idiosyncrasies are cute and we don’t worry too much about them. Sometimes they’re annoying. And sometimes they’re worrisome and have an impact on our relationship.

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Happy New Year 2018!

Parenting doesn’t stop the day our children turn 18 (or 19 or 20), but is a gradual process of moving in closer for support, then moving farther away to go back out into the world. And it’s a good reminder that we are all inter-dependent beings, that we all need each other, and we need to strive to remember that when we’re parenting our children as they grow.

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Podcast Episode #33 – Confronting Gender Stereotypes

I’m so grateful for this conversation with Afsaneh Moradian about her new children’s book, Jamie is Jamie, and about gender and gender stereotypes. This is such a timely conversation with the #metoo movement and parents really thinking about what we need to do to raise children who are prepared to be decent human beings.

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Choosing the Best Schooling Path for Your Family

Over the years, I have fallen in love with different philosophies of education. I love to research and find other ways of doing things and truly believe there is no one right path for even one child throughout his or her formative years. As parents, it is our responsibility to help find the best option for our child at any given time, depending upon what is available where we live, and what we all need as a family.

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Feeling Unsafe is a Fast Track to Red

So when you or your child has fast-tracked to red, keep in mind that, deep down, there’s a feeling of not being safe. Does knowing this change how you feel about what’s happening? Instead of asking what you can do to make a behavior stop, ask, “What do you need to feel safe? What does my child need to feel safe?” And see what happens.

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Podcast Episode #26 – Story Healing in Everyday Life

Rebecca and Lianne are back again this week to talk about how stories can help with the small hurts and disappointments of everyday life. Story Healing isn’t just a technique to be used when there is trauma, but it can be an effective tool to help move through normal tantrums and upsets.

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When You’re the One Who’s Losing It

Maybe you can relate to my own tantrum story. This wasn’t my best parenting day and I’d like to say that it was also my worst, but it wasn’t. It’s a snapshot. A moment of time. And you probably have them, too.