Taming, Transforming, and Transcending Your Triggers
Unless your parents were highly unique and parented consciously ahead of their time, you were likely disciplined and/or punished for behaviors in an effort to be “socialized.” Mainstream or traditional parenting centered around creating submissive and compliant children who “knew their place.”
The shift is underway, however, and children are coming into a place of more respect and understanding. Parents must consciously attend to their own conditioning and wiring in order to parent this way. It takes awareness and commitment to overcome the past and move toward a different future for your family.
Transforming reactivity to a conscious response is a continuous practice. It’s done in millimeters, not quantum leaps. Little by little we change and grow, by acknowledging our stress triggers and how they feel in the body. Noticing stress and turning it away from our children is the work. Simply naming our stress is wonderful – it shows awareness and inner sensitivity. Modeling how to connect to our internal guidance system is a priceless tool we can offer our children.
Setting the bar too high (ahem, perfectionists) is a recipe for additional stress. Using parenting as a personal growth practice requires us to be more in tune with ourselves in order to connect to others. Kids need to see us authentically transforming stressful reactions so they can do the same.
Listen in on our passionate conversation where we discuss the process of transformation around our stress triggers, as well as the top things parents can do to begin to transform triggers today.
Carrie Contey, PhD is an parenting coach, speaker and author. Her background offers a unique perspective on children, parenting, family life and what it means to be a healthy, happy, whole human being. In her work with thousands of parents all over the world, she guides, supports and inspires her clients to live with a wide-open and courageous heart so that they can approach parenting with both skill and spaciousness.