So many behaviors are a mystery, especially with our kids. It often seems like they were born a certain way with interesting idiosyncrasies. Most of the time their idiosyncrasies are cute and we don’t worry too much about them. Sometimes they’re annoying. And sometimes they’re worrisome and have an impact on our relationship. I want Read More
We’re offering a virtual support class for moms* (and partners) to help you make sense of your child’s challenging behaviors so parenting can feel better for everyone. Parenting is hard work. Kids can throw some really interesting behaviors at you. It’s easy to feel like you’re drowning in advice that isn’t helpful. Maybe you secretly Read More
Parenting doesn’t stop the day our children turn 18 (or 19 or 20), but is a gradual process of moving in closer for support, then moving farther away to go back out into the world. And it’s a good reminder that we are all inter-dependent beings, that we all need each other, and we need to strive to remember that when we’re parenting our children as they grow.
If we say yes to everything, we’re really saying no to everything because we can’t do it all. No one can.We’re taught to not say no growing up, in subtle and less subtle ways, and that saying yes is good.
My cousin stopped chopping carrots and asked me, “Does your family have any special traditions during the holidays? Do you eat something special?” She was looking at me as if she really wanted an answer. She cared about what I had to say. I hadn’t met this cousin before. At the time, I was in Read More
My oldest used to have a difficult time around the holidays. It was all too much for her to take in, and she didn’t know how to tell me what it was that caused her to act so unlike herself. On day when she was four, I took her for a mommy-daughter date to do Read More
Today we are back with Afsaneh Moradian to talk about when and how to let our kids work things out without jumping in to fix it or solve it. Much of parenting is about figuring out when to coach, when to intervene, when to be the mama bear and when to watch and have a conversation after. This is very much an art for any person spending time with these developing human beings.
Q: There are times when I have to say no to something my child wants, but I’m not sure how to handle it when my child gets upset. Sometimes I just give in and let her have what she wants, but that doesn’t feel right and it makes it harder the next time I need Read More
Recently, I chaperoned my daughter’s elementary school field trip to the art museum in town. On the permission slip to the event, there was a disclaimer about nude sculptures and paintings in the museum and a warning of the possible dreadful opportunity for the fourth grade children to see such pieces of art. Then, upon Read More
This week we are beginning a new podcast series about the importance of unstructured playtime, with Afsaneh Moradian, author of the upcoming book Jamie is Jamie. Play means kids get to do whatever they want to do, inside or outside, using what is available to them. The main thing is that they are choosing what to do. It is not about an adult offering ideas and suggestions, but the child looks around to see what’s available and chooses what to do.
I realized that while healthy eating is important, it is not above relationships and it is not above a crummy attitude. People matter more than food choices. Now, my views on food are much different. I believe that if we feed our bodies well most of the time, we can indulge in not-so-healthy food at other times.
When my boys were younger, one of their favorite games was to play “Christmas” and “Santa.” We celebrated Christmas in our home and there were inevitably gifts wrapped up and placed under a tree. We tried to be really conscious of what we were giving them, so it was usually just a few small gifts Read More
In this final discussion with Carrie Contey, we take the topic of triggers beyond the day-to-day experience of stress and struggle to the level of personal transcendence. It’s a delicious conversation that will refuel your parenting energy. Here, we’re offering a broader perspective of what it means to be triggered into a stressful reaction in your daily life with kids.
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