It isn’t a miracle cure. It isn’t a quick fix. For most families, it would take about 3 weeks to see a big change in the sleep patterns from using the story telling ideas we’re presenting. Interestingly, it is about the same amount of time that it takes using cry-it-out to change a sleep pattern without the negative consequences to the brain and the relationship.
When our children are little, we know we must model for them, so we show them how to pick up their toys and sing clean-up songs to make it more enjoyable. We sit with them and do it together, showing that teamwork makes the job go faster and that we can help each other. But for some reason, when they are older, we seem to expect them to just do things on their own, without direction or help. And often parents aren’t even kind about it. “Go clean your room!” “If you can’t take care of your things, maybe you don’t deserve to have them!”
Rebecca Thompson Hitt, MS, MFT of The Consciously Parenting Project introduces the first guiding principle from her first book- All Behavior is a Communication. Parents who are making the shift from focusing on behaviors to focusing on the relationship will learn how they can begin making changes in how they understand what’s happening. Our children communicate through their behaviors. Are you understanding what your child is REALLY communicating? And is your interpretation of your child’s behavior helping you to connect? And is it helping them to behave better? Join us for this exploration. You’ll leave with some good reminders or new ideas to apply in your life today.
Beata, 2 ½, had always been a restless sleeper. It was a challenge to get her to sleep each night, and once asleep she would burrow herself into the side of one of her parents. She woke up screaming inconsolably from her naps each day and many times at night, as well. Sleep training was something that her parents decided they did not want to do, but Scott and Beth were tired. More than that, they knew that Beata was probably not getting a good night’s sleep, either.
Our patterns, or how we deal with situations like this unconsciously, are set very early in our childhood. What we saw, felt, and experienced on every level is repeated, especially when we’re stressed. How do we change our patterns?
Pam Leo, author of Connection Parenting and now The Book Fairy Pantry Project, joins Rebecca Thompson Hitt for this important conversation about WHAT it looks like in real life to make reading, singing, and storytelling a way to connect with our kids. In our third and final conversation in our series with Pam Leo, we explore ways we can explore literature and expand literacy without even picking up a book. We invite the question: How can what you love be turned into a way to connect with your kids? You’ll end this episode with many great ideas for connecting with your kids and what it can really look like in your family, whether you like reading to your kids or not and you’ll learn why every interest your child has is a doorway to literacy.
It seems that sleep-deprived parents are given two choices: cry- it-out or just wait until they outgrow it. But is there another way? Was my son’s lack of sleep more than just an inconvenience? Was he trying to communicate something to me through his night waking?
She paused for a moment. This pause was for her. She centered herself around the realization that her child was distressed and this was how he was expressing it in this moment. She wasn’t going to do what he was demanding. That would not be healthy for either of them. But she stopped what she was doing and gave him her full attention. She ignored his behavior in this moment and focused on him, her child, who was clearly having a rough time.
Pam Leo, author of Connection Parenting and her new love, The Book Fairy Pantry Project, joins Rebecca Thompson Hitt to explore WHY reading, singing, and storytelling is SO important for our kids. In our second conversation in our series with Pam Leo, we explore what connection through singing, storytelling, and reading can look like in our daily lives with our children. We explore what we can do with our kids when they’re little to integrate literacy into our daily care-giving activities, as well as what it looks like as they grow older. We talk about how the most important part of these activities is connection. This may require us to set aside our own adult ideas about what things like reading look like. This episode is full of lovely ideas to connect in real life with our kids!
Mother’s Day is a wonderful reason to do something extra nurturing for yourself and I hope that’s what you’ve been doing today. But remember that we can’t save our nurturing time for once a year. I hope that every day, you find a way to celebrate your mothering journey, even in small ways. After all, this is the most important work we’ll ever do. If we don’t appreciate ourselves, no one else will, either.