“Our greatest joy -and our greatest pain – comes in our relationships with others.”
– Stephen R. Covey
The effects of stress and trauma are long lasting and can be very, very exhausting to manage on a daily basis. At the Consciously Parenting Project we know this. We know what it is like to live with a child who lies, steals, throws tantrums, argues, and defies all authority. We know the pain a parent feels when they see that their child is struggling to make friends, doing poorly in school, and constantly hurting themselves and others. We have truly been where you are now.
In years past, the traditional methods of managing our children’s severe behaviors were often confusing and actually utilized fear-based techniques. Many of these techniques revolved around controlling the children’s behaviors at all costs, despite the long term affects to the precious relationship between parent and child. Many parents found themselves doling out punishment after punishment in an attempt to dominate their children. They were told to make their children wash walls because they lied. Or strong sit because they interrupted. They have tried time-outs, sticker charts, grounding, and spanking, with little or no success. These techniques focus solely on the behaviors and fail to treat the underlying cause. They simply do not work in the long run.
We know you have been doing the best you possibly can and we honor that. But today, neuroscience offers us something different. We now know that the brain has the ability to continually grow and change, which means there is nothing but hope for children with diagnoses such as Reactive Attachment Disorder, ADD, ADHD, Bi-Polar, Oppositional Defiant Disorder, Depression, and more. Through the latest brain research, we are encouraged to look beyond these scary behaviors and diagnoses. We can now begin speaking to the underlying cause of these childhood disorders and actually re-wire the connections in their brains. This allows us to focus on the parent/child relationship and strengthen the entire family bond, bringing long-term peace to families that are so desperately seeking it.
Please join us as we walk together through the fire and begin your journey towards healing.