Podcast Episode #37 – Gun Violence: Supporting Your Kids

Kids may or may not have words for what’s happening for them or what they’re worried about, but they will show you that something is bothering them through their behavior. They may be more aggressive than usual. They may seem sullen or quieter than normal. They may seem to have more energy. They may start to get sick more frequently or more severely. Our culture may label these things as misbehaviors or unrelated to things that have happened, but I’ve learned that most of the time they’re actually signs of stress, of a story that they can’t make sense of, or something that they need more support to handle.

Today we’re talking about how to support our kids and understand their experience of gun violence in our country.

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Podcast Episode #36 – Gun Violence: Finding Your Mama Bear

Finding your Mama Bear is about your perception of safety and doing something. It’s about the need to keep our children safe and how that impacts our nervous systems.

Find ways to be proactive – whether that’s pulling your child out of school until the problems are properly addressed at least in the short term, finding programs or efforts that you support that you feel are moving things in the right direction – whatever that means to you.

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Podcast Episode #35 – Gun Violence as a Collective Trauma

The collective trauma that many Americans have experienced in bearing witness to such tragedies in schools and other public spaces, that either are part of their daily environment or resemble them closely, has caused many people to develop an ongoing defensive stance that can resemble the post-traumatic response of actual trauma survivors. Listen in to learn more about how our nervous systems are responding to this trauma.

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Podcast Episode #34 – Gun Violence: Listening to Understand

We’re all scared right now and in that fear, no one is really listening to anyone else. How can we make it different? Why does it matter? We need to start with listening, and not just to the people who agree with us. But we need to find ways to make it safer to have the conversations we need to have and to listen to one another. In this series, we’re going to be looking at what it takes to really listen to understand and another way we can look at what’s happening with the boys and men in our culture that I haven’t seen anyone talking about. Let’s raise our consciousness and work together to help our kids!

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Podcast Episode #33 – Confronting Gender Stereotypes

I’m so grateful for this conversation with Afsaneh Moradian about her new children’s book, Jamie is Jamie, and about gender and gender stereotypes. This is such a timely conversation with the #metoo movement and parents really thinking about what we need to do to raise children who are prepared to be decent human beings.

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Podcast Episode #32 – When do parents need to step in and help?

Today we are back with Afsaneh Moradian to talk about when and how to let our kids work things out without jumping in to fix it or solve it. Much of parenting is about figuring out when to coach, when to intervene, when to be the mama bear and when to watch and have a conversation after. This is very much an art for any person spending time with these developing human beings.

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Podcast Episode #31 – The Importance of Unstructured Playtime

This week we are beginning a new podcast series about the importance of unstructured playtime, with Afsaneh Moradian, author of the upcoming book Jamie is Jamie. Play means kids get to do whatever they want to do, inside or outside, using what is available to them. The main thing is that they are choosing what to do. It is not about an adult offering ideas and suggestions, but the child looks around to see what’s available and chooses what to do.

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Podcast Episode #30 – Transcending Your Triggers

In this final discussion with Carrie Contey, we take the topic of triggers beyond the day-to-day experience of stress and struggle to the level of personal transcendence. It’s a delicious conversation that will refuel your parenting energy. Here, we’re offering a broader perspective of what it means to be triggered into a stressful reaction in your daily life with kids.

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Podcast Episode #29 – Transforming Your Triggers

Transforming reactivity to a conscious response is a continuous practice. It’s done in millimeters, not quantum leaps. Little by little we change and grow, by acknowledging our stress triggers and how they feel in the body.

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Podcast Episode #28 – Taming Your Triggers with guest expert Carrie Contey

We’ve all had them. Some are small, others overwhelming. If you’re here, you’re a step ahead in that you’re aware that you have them. Parenting brings them on in full force. We’re talking about triggers with guest parenting expert Carrie Contey.

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