Podcast Episode #47 – Raising Boys Q&A: Deescalation Techniques

Rebecca and Nathan look at how intentionally connecting with our children throughout their childhood can help us when we get to the teen years, by giving them and us the tools needed to move through intense emotions as they come up, before they escalate into something hard to handle. They also discuss ways to compassionately work with our teens in those situations where emotions have gotten very intense and the situation has escalated or morphed into something it wasn’t about originally.

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Podcast Episode #44 – Raising Boys Q&A: Talking Bodies and Sex

Q&A: Talking about Bodies and Sex with Your Kids
Jamie’s Question:
I am loving being a boy-mama. My sons are almost 10 & 12. The “challenges” I’m having are (although I don’t have a “problem” with this – just mystified confusion) why EVERYTHING relates to a penis. Everything. “Heh-heh…that rock looks like a penis, you smell like a penis, that cloud looks like a penis. PENIS.” LOL!! But… why?? I don’t remember hearing girls talk about vaginas.

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Podcast Episode #43 – Raising Boys Q&A: Healthy Masculinity

The question sent in for today was specifically about how to help our boys navigate “locker room talk” so that they don’t become a victim of some kind by not participating, but can handle those situations they may find themselves in. The topic of respect is at the forefront once again – respecting our children and holding boundaries so they learn what that feels and looks like.

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Podcast Episode #42 – Raising Boys Q&A: Wiping, Connection, & Respect

I’m excited to welcome Nathan McTague back as we discuss some questions that listeners sent in. We heard from many of you that you enjoyed our discussion about raising emotionally-healthy boys, and we hope you enjoy the Q&A as well. We’ll be spending the next three episodes on listener questions.

In this episode, we start with early life and the developmental process that happens, and weaving in empathy and connection as our children grow into adults.

Question: Why can’t my kid just wipe?

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Podcast Episode #40 – Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys (part 1)

How can we best support our boys when they are young and as they grow into men? There are many cultural messages for boys around feelings, so how do we navigate that territory? How do we stay respectful of our boys’ biology and neurobiology? We want to make sure we are creating the space for their emotions and really respecting that they’re different than we are as women and moms.

In this episode, Rebecca talks with Nathan McTague of The Center for Emotional Education. They discuss how emotion is actually processed in the brain, the real needs of children who are experiencing intense feelings, and how testosterone causes all kinds of “wonkiness” for teenage boys.

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Podcast Episode #38 – You can put “Sad” in your pocket

I told her that if she was feeling sad and either she couldn’t find someone in that moment to give her a hug, *or* if she just didn’t want to have to do it right then, because she was out or having fun or something, then she could put her Sad in her pocket for later. I went on to say that she couldn’t put Sad in the trash can. There’s no getting rid of it and not taking care of it. But she could put it in her pocket and then later she could pull it out when it was a better time and get her hugs then.

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