Originally published on The Consciously Parenting Blog December 17, 2010
I’ve been meaning to email for a week or so, to give you an update on Timmy’s world since the telling of his birth story. We haven’t told the story for about a week now, but that feels fine – I think both Timmy and I are feeling in a good space right now, either partly or solely due to the story-telling. His transitions are so much easier now, particularly nap, bath and bed times – everything seems to flow much more right now. We really seemed to connect when I told him the story – he would listen so intently (even after the 20th or so time!!) and gaze at me with his beautiful big eyes. Incredible!
Thank you for helping me through this one – my mind has been opened even more!
Mom of 2 ½ year old, New Zealand
I so appreciate hearing from families who have been willing to give this story telling idea a go just to see what happens, even if it seems a bit strange at first. I think it has become more and more clear to me that we don’t really understand the life of babies and young children. What is clear to me is that children and parents alike both benefit from hearing and telling stories. The reality is that this is something that parents can do themselves from home with just a little bit of guidance and a dash of curiosity to see what happens.
It takes time
It isn’t a miracle cure, or a quick fix. For most families, it would take about 3 weeks to see a big change in the sleep patterns from using the story telling ideas we’re presenting. Interestingly, it is about the same amount of time that it takes using cry-it-out to change a sleep pattern without the negative consequences to the brain and the relationship.
The example that I gave in my last blog about Beata was what Beth was able to accomplish after listening to our free teleseminar. This was something that resonated with Beth and she had nothing to lose to try it with her daughter. (You can listen to the same free teleseminar now by clicking here.) This didn’t fix all of Beata’s sleep problems. She was still having difficulty falling asleep and staying asleep, but Beth saw a difference and it felt like they were moving in the right direction for her family.
I’m really passionate about helping families find information and support that resonates with their belief systems. When what we’re doing isn’t working, we need to look elsewhere. If our current understanding isn’t giving us the results we desire, we need to raise our level of consciousness and that sometimes means opening up to ideas that are outside of our comfort zone. Bravo to all the families who are open to trying these new ideas to see if it fits into their family’s world or not.