We’re all scared right now and in that fear, no one is really listening to anyone else. How can we make it different? Why does it matter? We need to start with listening, and not just to the people who agree with us. But we need to find ways to make it safer to have the conversations we need to have and to listen to one another. In this series, we’re going to be looking at what it takes to really listen to understand and another way we can look at what’s happening with the boys and men in our culture that I haven’t seen anyone talking about. Let’s raise our consciousness and work together to help our kids!
The news is heartbreaking. So much violence. So much fear. So much sadness and pain. I don’t have all the answers We, as individuals, can’t change what’s happening today. But please, find what you CAN do to make the world a better place. Start with your own family. That is not insignificant.
I had a really moving conversation with my 12-year-old this afternoon about the Orlando massacre. He was talking about what he’s heard – so much about the person who killed and hurt so many innocent people. He doesn’t understand how someone could kill people because of who they love and he said, “Why are there so many bad people in the world?” I could feel the heaviness in his question. It was in that moment that I realized he is only hearing the bad parts – and there are plenty – in this awful time when many of my friends and clients and loved ones are no longer safe.
When your child is doing something that makes no sense to you, you make up a story to help make sense of it. Sometimes this story is helpful. Sometimes it’s not. We all do this. And it happened to us when we were growing up, too – our parent(s) made up stories about our behaviors. Read More
Has the course already started? How is this different from your other courses in the Learning Center? What is a Healing Story Circle? Are we actually learning to rewrite stories with our kids? Does this work for older kids or even adults? How much time will it take each week? Do I need to go somewhere for this course?
So many behaviors are a mystery, especially with our kids. It often seems like they were born a certain way with interesting idiosyncrasies. Most of the time their idiosyncrasies are cute and we don’t worry too much about them. Sometimes they’re annoying. And sometimes they’re worrisome and have an impact on our relationship.
So many behaviors are a mystery, especially with our kids. It often seems like they were born a certain way with interesting idiosyncrasies. Most of the time their idiosyncrasies are cute and we don’t worry too much about them. Sometimes they’re annoying. And sometimes they’re worrisome and have an impact on our relationship. I want Read More
We’re offering a virtual support class for moms* (and partners) to help you make sense of your child’s challenging behaviors so parenting can feel better for everyone. Parenting is hard work. Kids can throw some really interesting behaviors at you. It’s easy to feel like you’re drowning in advice that isn’t helpful. Maybe you secretly Read More
Parenting doesn’t stop the day our children turn 18 (or 19 or 20), but is a gradual process of moving in closer for support, then moving farther away to go back out into the world. And it’s a good reminder that we are all inter-dependent beings, that we all need each other, and we need to strive to remember that when we’re parenting our children as they grow.
If we say yes to everything, we’re really saying no to everything because we can’t do it all. No one can.We’re taught to not say no growing up, in subtle and less subtle ways, and that saying yes is good.
Today we are back with Afsaneh Moradian to talk about when and how to let our kids work things out without jumping in to fix it or solve it. Much of parenting is about figuring out when to coach, when to intervene, when to be the mama bear and when to watch and have a conversation after. This is very much an art for any person spending time with these developing human beings.
Q: There are times when I have to say no to something my child wants, but I’m not sure how to handle it when my child gets upset. Sometimes I just give in and let her have what she wants, but that doesn’t feel right and it makes it harder the next time I need Read More
This week we are beginning a new podcast series about the importance of unstructured playtime, with Afsaneh Moradian, author of the upcoming book Jamie is Jamie. Play means kids get to do whatever they want to do, inside or outside, using what is available to them. The main thing is that they are choosing what to do. It is not about an adult offering ideas and suggestions, but the child looks around to see what’s available and chooses what to do.
I realized that while healthy eating is important, it is not above relationships and it is not above a crummy attitude. People matter more than food choices. Now, my views on food are much different. I believe that if we feed our bodies well most of the time, we can indulge in not-so-healthy food at other times.