Gun Violence, Safety, and Support for Families Finding your Mama Bear is about your perception of safety and doing something. It’s about the need to keep our children safe and how that impacts our nervous systems. Find ways to be proactive – whether that’s pulling your child out of school until the problems are properly Read More
I want to share an experience I had at the LaGuardia airport in New York City when flying with my 19 year-old-son last week. It’s an interesting look at boundaries, letting our kids handle things, and stepping in when necessary. We had arrived at the airport just before 7am on a Tuesday morning, and were Read More
The collective trauma that many Americans have experienced in bearing witness to such tragedies in schools and other public spaces, that either are part of their daily environment or resemble them closely, has caused many people to develop an ongoing defensive stance that can resemble the post-traumatic response of actual trauma survivors. Listen in to learn more about how our nervous systems are responding to this trauma.
We’re all scared right now and in that fear, no one is really listening to anyone else. How can we make it different? Why does it matter? We need to start with listening, and not just to the people who agree with us. But we need to find ways to make it safer to have the conversations we need to have and to listen to one another. In this series, we’re going to be looking at what it takes to really listen to understand and another way we can look at what’s happening with the boys and men in our culture that I haven’t seen anyone talking about. Let’s raise our consciousness and work together to help our kids!
The news is heartbreaking. So much violence. So much fear. So much sadness and pain. I don’t have all the answers We, as individuals, can’t change what’s happening today. But please, find what you CAN do to make the world a better place. Start with your own family. That is not insignificant.
I had a really moving conversation with my 12-year-old this afternoon about the Orlando massacre. He was talking about what he’s heard – so much about the person who killed and hurt so many innocent people. He doesn’t understand how someone could kill people because of who they love and he said, “Why are there so many bad people in the world?” I could feel the heaviness in his question. It was in that moment that I realized he is only hearing the bad parts – and there are plenty – in this awful time when many of my friends and clients and loved ones are no longer safe.
When your child is doing something that makes no sense to you, you make up a story to help make sense of it. Sometimes this story is helpful. Sometimes it’s not. We all do this. And it happened to us when we were growing up, too – our parent(s) made up stories about our behaviors. Read More
Has the course already started? How is this different from your other courses in the Learning Center? What is a Healing Story Circle? Are we actually learning to rewrite stories with our kids? Does this work for older kids or even adults? How much time will it take each week? Do I need to go somewhere for this course?
So many behaviors are a mystery, especially with our kids. It often seems like they were born a certain way with interesting idiosyncrasies. Most of the time their idiosyncrasies are cute and we don’t worry too much about them. Sometimes they’re annoying. And sometimes they’re worrisome and have an impact on our relationship.
We’re offering a virtual support class for moms* (and partners) to help you make sense of your child’s challenging behaviors so parenting can feel better for everyone. Parenting is hard work. Kids can throw some really interesting behaviors at you. It’s easy to feel like you’re drowning in advice that isn’t helpful. Maybe you secretly Read More
Parenting doesn’t stop the day our children turn 18 (or 19 or 20), but is a gradual process of moving in closer for support, then moving farther away to go back out into the world. And it’s a good reminder that we are all inter-dependent beings, that we all need each other, and we need to strive to remember that when we’re parenting our children as they grow.
If we say yes to everything, we’re really saying no to everything because we can’t do it all. No one can.We’re taught to not say no growing up, in subtle and less subtle ways, and that saying yes is good.