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Nonviolence is
more than "not being physically violent.” Nonviolence represents
a way of being with a quality of presence that is rooted in the
commitment to honor the integrity of another human being (and
our own).
NVC is a way of living — how we relate to
others and ourselves. It is a way of communicating that
supports connection with and compassion for ourselves and
others. Out of this connection, everyone's needs are valued and
we regain our natural joy in giving.
Learning NVC
is learning to:
♥ Build
relationships based on compassion, connection and choice.
♥ Accurately
understand other people's feelings and needs.
♥ Be
assertive and open at the same time.
♥ Break
patterns of thinking that lead to anger and depression.
♥ Dissolve
the fear of rejection.
♥ Cope
with demands without giving in or becoming defensive.
♥ Encourage
the reconnecting process of repair when ruptures in
relationships happen.
As a practice,
Nonviolent Communication:
♥ Facilitates
the flow of communication needed to guide the conversation
toward synergistic solutions.
♥ Focuses
on shared human values and needs.
♥ Transforms
potential conflicts into peaceful dialogues.
♥ Encourages
the use of language that increases good will, and compassion for
ourselves and others.
♥ Empowers
to Know where to go from “NO”
♥ Provides
an alternative to language that contributes to fear, guilt and
shame, and therefore resentment or lowered self-esteem.
Some of NVC’s Contributions at a Glance:
♥ Non-judgmental
approach that fosters unconditional love for self and others.
♥ Deeply
rooted in spiritual and social change traditions.
♥ Sustains
the radical shift in consciousness needed for transforming the
existing parenting paradigm instead of making superficial
changes.
♥ Recognizes
the social context of parenting and encourages community
building, not just individual skill-building.
♥ Aligned
with latest brain research and parenting strategies that
encourage early attachment and bonding, and extends them beyond
infancy.
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