Toddlers aren’t the only ones who have emotional upsets.
A big misconception I hear on a regular basis is that parents don’t need to talk about tantrums and emotional upsets because they don’t have a toddler anymore.
“We’re past that phase.”
This means that their kids are probably no longer throwing themselves on the floor when they’re upset. Not at home, in the grocery store, or in the drop off line at school.
But that doesn’t mean that they’re never upset.
In reality, we ALL have emotional upsets. Yes, even as adults.
And most of us need to learn how to regulate ourselves when we’re upset, to develop the capacity for maintaining connection through the upsets and not just isolating ourselves or our children. We don’t learn to regulate in isolation. We need each other, but we don’t always know how to use each other to help regulate. Chances are, it’s totally different than what you grew up with.
Chances are that your parents did whatever they felt they needed to do to make you stop being upset. And chances are that you probably do the same thing your parents did or you’re working to do something different.
This is a conversation that we all need to have. How do we stay connected to ourselves and our kids when there’s an upset? How do we navigate these difficult spaces in a healthy way?
I want to give you the opportunity to join a group of parents who want to explore this topic in real time. It’s a combination of our on-demand class content (a series of 2-3 minute videos totalling about an hour of content), live sessions, and a private Facebook group for discussions.
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From Rebecca’s blog post: “When we recognize that our children have reasons for their upsets (even if we don’t really get it), it gives us the opportunity to connect and actually help make it better this time, and the next time, too. Learning the skills to regulate and create more connection in the moment helps everyone to feel better, no matter how old we are and no matter what we call it.” Click here to continue reading!
We’re going to be starting a discussion-based class on September 15, 2017. If this conversation is interesting to you, you might also be interested in joining us for our live virtual class! Learn more here.
Related blog posts:
Tantrums Aren’t Just for Toddlers
Guest blogger Lianne March didn’t expect to still witness toddler-style tantrums with an 8-year-old, but it turns out that older children (and adults!) still have big feelings that often need understanding and support. Click here to read
Doing the Best We Can Do
I really thought about how he had said, “No, I can’t” calm down. He really was doing the best he could do in that moment. I think we have a tendency to think that our children can do better and so we push them to do better. But what if that truly is the best they can do at that given time? Click here to read
An Alternative View of Tantrums and Emotional Upsets
Think of someone you feel supports you- maybe a good friend or perhaps your partner. What does this person do? Do they try to fix it? Give you a solution? Send you away? Hang up the phone until you can calm yourself down? No. Someone who supports you probably notices how you’re feeling and stops what they’re doing to be with you. This is someone who wants you to tell them more. To keep going. Who will help hold space for the tears, the anger, the frustration. Click here to read more
Check out these great blog posts and podcasts!
Then we started a new series about Educating our Kids. Consciously parenting runs through all areas of life, including learning environments. Instead of pushing through life, rolling over and shutting down emotional responses – both in ourselves and with our children – consciously parenting takes a different route.
Begin with trust – in yourself and your intuition, in your children and their uniqueness, in your relationship, and in the wide array of learning options you can uncover if you keep an open mind.
Choosing My Child Over Moms’ Night Out
Guest blogger Jessica Drummond shares about a time where she had to make a tough choice – Close the car door and be off to have much needed time sans kids? Or get out of the car and tend to my sobbing child?Click here to read
My Loud Journey to Conscious Mindfulness
Guest blogger Angelle Gremillion shares about realizing that yelling was not working for her as a communication tool, and how she was able to break the habit. Click here to read
Back to Homeschool
Guest blogger Lianne March shares about homeschooling and how changing plans is ok when something isn’t working. In fact, it’s important to stay flexible to continue meeting everyone’s needs. After all, needs are constantly changing, too. Click here to read
Consciously Parenting Learning Center and Community
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