When my oldest was little (he’s 18 now), I thought I knew what his behavior was communicating. I thought he needed discipline and punishment, but I was missing that he was showing me, through his behaviors, how he was feeling and what he needed.
He didn’t know how else to express what he was feeling inside, or that he really needed me to see, feel, and hear him. He wasn’t using words to say that to me. He couldn’t.
When I got that – really, really got that – everything changed for us and I didn’t need punishment anymore. It was a huge shift for me. This connection created a strong bond between us- one that could weather the ups and downs of adolescence, the inevitable disagreements, and lost friendships, in connection or reconnection as necessary.
This week, I’m sharing my podcast with you where I talk more about how All Behavior is a Communication, so take a listen and let me know what you think!
Next week, I’ll be sharing an interview with Scott Noelle of the Daily Groove.
Podcast Episode 4: All Behavior is Communication
Episode 4 is up! Join me as I introduce the first guiding principle from Book I – All Behavior is a Communication. Parents who are making the shift from focusing on behaviors to focusing on the relationship will learn how they can begin making changes in how they understand what’s happening. Our children communicate through their behaviors. Are you understanding what your child is REALLY communicating? And is your interpretation of your child’s behavior helping you to connect? And is it helping them to behave better? Join us for this exploration. You’ll leave with some good reminders or new ideas to apply in your life today.
Handling Anger with Respect for All
What do you do when someone in your life gets angry? Do you leave, get out of dodge, go for a walk? Do you fight? Let your own anger rise up? Put them in their place? Do you freeze? Say nothing. Retreat into yourself. What’s your own story about what’s happening here? Click to read
From the Consciously Parenting archives: Events that are unprocessed and unintegrated live on and affect our lives. This isn’t about feeling guilt about the way a birth went. It is about realizing that birth and the time before we have conscious memories does matter. Click to read
I was exhausted. Everyone had been going on high speed. Lots of emotional issues had been coming up for each of us. Throw in some financial concerns, end of the school year for three family members, traveling across the country for my brother’s (really fun and amazing) wedding, along with my book release, and it was a way past time for a little break.
Sound familiar to you? Maybe you’ve been running on empty for a long time. Just making due, getting by, surviving, but not thriving. It’s hard to catch your footing on a slippery surface. So how can you start to make a shift for yourself? Move more toward thriving and away from simply surviving? Click to read