I am sick to death of reading fluffy pieces that tell me to take a long bath, and to integrate more self-care by just breathing, to fix my entire life. Magazines and blogs are filled with articles about finding extra time in your day, while social media flaunts pictures of girlfriends walking in flowered meadows Read More
I see you with your messy hair from a sleepless night with a restless babe in your arms, tear-soaked pj’s still being worn the next day with that same babe that is bright-eyed and ready to greet the rising sun. I hear the stumbling of your 6:30 am wake-up call with a cold cup of Read More
They may be warm in their beds, having had their bedtime routine, and yet something doesn’t feel right to them.
Instead of saying, “Mom, I feel anxious,” the yells from down the hall for a drink of water come. It may be, “Can I have one more hug?” or “I have to go potty.”
This isn’t avoidance of resting their bodies. It is an outcry of a need they have no words to describe.
Greetings from Florida! I hope this note finds you doing well. This month, we’re sharing stories of encouragement (the effort of parenting this way is SO worth it!), stories about cultivating kindness, and we’re exploring raising emotionally healthy boys on our podcast. (Not raising a son? This conversation is also actually quite relevant whether you’re Read More
We’re back again this week with Nathan McTague to continue our discussion on raising emotionally-healthy boys. In this episode, we talk about how to support our children when they are angry or upset.
As the requirements for our children in traditional schools become longer, including mandates for the number of minutes each subject must be taught, schools are eliminating recess, physical education, and play-based learning. There simply isn’t time for movement because it is considered unimportant in our head-centric education. But this disconnect is hurting our children.
How can we best support our boys when they are young and as they grow into men? There are many cultural messages for boys around feelings, so how do we navigate that territory? How do we stay respectful of our boys’ biology and neurobiology? We want to make sure we are creating the space for their emotions and really respecting that they’re different than we are as women and moms.
In this episode, Rebecca talks with Nathan McTague of The Center for Emotional Education. They discuss how emotion is actually processed in the brain, the real needs of children who are experiencing intense feelings, and how testosterone causes all kinds of “wonkiness” for teenage boys.
They were up on the ropes course at MOSI. My son was about 9 years-old at the time and he was fearlessly navigating the twists and turns and the narrow spots with ease about 30 feet off the ground. I was down on the ground observing, seriously in awe of his fearlessness and skill. He Read More
Boys. Whether you’re expecting a boy or already have one in your family, we want to do our best to raise them to be emotionally healthy members of our families and then their own families one day. But how do we do raise emotionally healthy boys?
Today I want to share a few recent stories from my home where I have been able to see the effects of many years of practicing Consciously Parenting. I have been doing this for 13 years. 13 years of investing in learning about how to parent differently, practicing the way I want to respond to Read More
Your child is having an experience, and it’s different than your experience. It seems like such an obvious statement and yet it is actually a really important concept that most of us have some trouble with, including me, as you’ll read about in this week’s blog post. We sometimes believe that we’re looking at our Read More
I told her that if she was feeling sad and either she couldn’t find someone in that moment to give her a hug, *or* if she just didn’t want to have to do it right then, because she was out or having fun or something, then she could put her Sad in her pocket for later. I went on to say that she couldn’t put Sad in the trash can. There’s no getting rid of it and not taking care of it. But she could put it in her pocket and then later she could pull it out when it was a better time and get her hugs then.
Several years ago, I was struggling with my 11-year-old son’s transition to school in the morning. I just wanted him to get up and go to school! He loved his school and I really couldn’t understand what the problem was with getting there on time. He was so slow in the morning and it was Read More
This past Saturday, I attended the March for Our Lives in Tampa, FL. The march was a response to the Parkland, Florida school shooting at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School on February 14, 2018 where 17 people died. Marjory Stoneman Douglas is about 4 hours south of where I was standing and about 10 miles Read More
Kids may or may not have words for what’s happening for them or what they’re worried about, but they will show you that something is bothering them through their behavior. They may be more aggressive than usual. They may seem sullen or quieter than normal. They may seem to have more energy. They may start to get sick more frequently or more severely. Our culture may label these things as misbehaviors or unrelated to things that have happened, but I’ve learned that most of the time they’re actually signs of stress, of a story that they can’t make sense of, or something that they need more support to handle.
Today we’re talking about how to support our kids and understand their experience of gun violence in our country.